Yesterday I had a big surprise: Mike Broadwell asked me if I could do an interview with Gary Williams about EFT and teens on the 24-hour Living Energy Day Event tomorrow.

No need to say that I am beaming – I look so forward to connect with you all and to share my enthousiasm about EFT with Gary and the world

Details of the event are all at http://www.facebook.com/LivingEnergyDay.

Here is the schedule, all times are Eastern Time.
You can find the event clock here: Event Clock

On the facebook page you can already listen to a pre-event interview, and share your thoughts and ideas on the wall.
I look forward to see you there!

Charlotte

**7:30pm Special Bonus pre-call – Marci Shimoff with Sandra Crowe**

8pm David Gann with Debra Thompson
9pm Rick Wilkes with Cathy Vartuli
10pm Dr. Norm Shealy & Larry Crane with Sandra Crowe
11pm Lori Shayew with Christel Hughes
12am Kenji Kumara with Sheila Gale
1am Trina Hammack with Sheila Gale
2am Siobhan Wilcox with Christel Hughes
3am Suzy Miller with Christel Hughes
4am Charlotte Kamman with Gary Williams
5am Dr. Rajalakshmi K. with Gary Williams
6am Catharina Jansma withSharon Crawford host
7am Cyril Bourke with Sharon Crawford
8am David Humes with Cindy Kubica
9am Lorelei Robbins with Cindy Kubica
10am Dr. Claude Swanson with Pamela Bowen
11am Dr. Karl Maret with Damaris Drewry
12pm Michele Blood with Cindy Kubica
1pm Jonathan Goldman with Debra Thompson
2pm Damaris Drewry with Eleanore Duyndam
3pm Loretta Sparks with Eleanore Duyndam
4pm Lynn McKenzie with Debra Thompson
5pm Nick Ortner with Debra Thompson
6pm Pam Houghteling with Sheila Gale
7pm Rikka Zimmerman with Christel Hughes
8pm Howard Martin with Jerome Braggs
9pm Jerome Braggs

“Mom? I want to tell you something. But you have to promise that you won’t tell anyone, Mom!”
“Sure honey, what do you want to tell me?”
“Mary says that she slept with her boyfriend, Mom!”

I didn’t know what to say. My daughter and her friend are 12, and I was seriously shocked. I had never thought that friends of my daughter would be so premature. I thought I still had time enough to prepare her for her dating life. I feel blessed that we talk about boyfriends and sex, because I know it is not so easy in many cases.

One thing I have really worked on hard, is to keep the communication open between my daughter and me. I also know how easy it is to ruin all the hard work in one sentence, so I am very careful in how I react to her.

But I have to admit, that I did have a strong emotional reaction. I was NOT prepared for this in any way – and I realised that many parents of 12 year olds probably are not.

The most important rule I try to keep is to be authentic. So I decided to tell her about the fact that I was shocked and did not really know how to react. She reacted in a very adult way: “Mom, I understand. I am shocked too.”

I felt relieve, at least she did not think that this was normal.
She went on, “I think she is only saying it to make me jealous, Mom. I mean, 12 is way too young to sleep with a boy. She always tries to make me feel small, and she probably thinks this will make me feel a small child!”

I couldn’t help having a big smile on my face. I felt proud of my daughter and very relieved.

I knew however, that I am not ready with this subject. I have to decide if I talk to the friends’ mother. And I have to take my talks about sex to the next level. It is time to talk about condoms and pills, and ways of having safe sex. But somehow that does not feel right yet. The emotional implications of sex come first, if you ask me. So I started to talk with her about the energetic levels of having sex.

One day we were on a long distance drive, and I started like this: “You know, sweetie, when we talked the other day about Mary and her boyfriend, I didn’t tell you something I would have loved to tell you. You, know, if you sleep with someone, your energy fields get intertwined, and it is not so easy to untangle them, especially for us, women”. She looked at me. “You know, Mom, just as me and Yami (her little dog) are connected with our hearts?”

I nodded. “Exactly like that sweetie. That is what happens. But for boys it is often different, and especially when they are young. So if you sleep with a boy, and you think he really loves you, you could get easily hurt. You know, Mom got hurt a couple of times, even though I did not sleep straight away with new boyfriends. Having to say goodbye to someone you really love, does really hurt..”

“I understand Mom… If we go on a holiday and I have to leave Yami behind, that also hurts…”

I knew I was getting somewhere here.

“You know, sweetie, that is exactly the feeling. So if you fall in love with a boy, just remember this. And for boys, love can sometimes vanish after a couple of days or weeks.. And if you really love each other, there will be plenty of time to make love. Because making love is really different to having sex. And making love is possible only when you really know each other…”

She nodded and started to talk about the new book she was reading, so I knew it was good for now.

I know for sure that there is one important thing I want to keep as a priority: That whatever she tells me, whatever she has done, whatever mistakes she makes – I will listen, I will be open and I will not judge. Because if she keeps talking to me and asking me for my opinion, I can guide her step by step through her adolescence.

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If you have a teenage son or daughter, you know that it can be a challenge to stay peaceful and loving.
Teens want boundaries, and they will often try us out.
In this videotip I give you a simple and easy way to break out of a pattern of conflict.

 
 
 

 
 
 
You make me very happy with your thoughts and experiences in the comment box below!
 
 

 
 

Today I cooked green beans – and as I was cutting them on the worktop, I thoughtlessly put a little piece in my mouth.
Raw green beans…

Suddenly I was back in the kitchen of the big, old farmhouse in Germany where I grew up. No, my Dad was not a farmer, my Dutch parents lived in the house next to the farm. But I remember that I was almost never at home. Doris, the neighbor’s daughter and I were self-declared sisters. We were 4 years old when we moved there, and I was eight when we moved away, to a village 20 miles along the road.

And that kitchen, with its dark brown wooden ceiling, the smell of sausages smoking in the big fireplace, the huge wooden table where the farmer and his family and the farm hands ate the solid homemade bread with thick slices of smoked ham, from the own pigs… That kitchen was home.

I feel the wooden table, I feel the wooden chair, I see the plate with the fine red pattern in front of me. Erika, Doris’ aunt, slices the bread, the traditional sourdough bread – which will always stay my preferred bread.

I hear “Mutti”, that’s what I called her, talk to the others. And I think of the swing, that was attached high to the ceiling in the stable, and where we swung until we almost reached the ceiling, while the cows were ruminating far below us..

And when “Mutti” was busy in the kitchen, Doris and I used to “help” her, slicing the beans in the little mill, and then nibble of the raw beans, without Mutti noticing. We were not allowed to eat raw beans, because too many raw beans cause a tummy ache. And that little piece of raw bean, coming out of the inox mill that was clamped to the table top, that is now in my mouth.

I remember the time that a little calf was born and we were allowed to watch, soooo cute but also quite dirty and wet and slimy… and the little piglets that we were playing with, although we weren’t allowed to.

The mouse we caught on the cornloft, we were really scared.. I smell the dust of the grain, I see the dust in the sunlight peering through the small round window.

………….

When we moved, the homesickness found a place in me and never went away after that. That is my “90-10″: Oftentimes that feeling gets triggered, the beauty, feeling at home, knowing to be loved and accepted. But at the same time being ripped away, the melancholic hint of not feeling home anywhere.

Like today, as I put that bean in my mouth.

I’d love to hear your comments in the comment box below!
 
 

 
 
 

Image: @paulzornig

 
 
I am sorry that I go off into a rant today but I have something which I have to get off my chest. I am a MOM after all, a Mom On a Mission!
 
Yesterday I visited a friend with a newborn baby, and as is usual in Portuguese families, the television was blaring on the background. Now, for me, that is enough reason to stay only for a short time, the noise and the blown-up emotions and fights splattering their exaggerated energy throughout the room is not my piece of cake, but alas, it is their choice (if they are aware of the fact that it is a choice.. which I do doubt. But anyway, that’s another blogpost.
 
This involuntary watching brought me to the following thoughts:
 
This in NOT normal.

 
Now I am certainly not a Victorian mom, and I am not against modern life at all.
I do live in this world, and I see the freedom and the opportunities that we and our children have, that our parents never experienced in their youth.
 
But
 
For me there is a certain amount of information that a child can cope with. In the families of today, there is much more trouble, emotional havoc, divorces, fights for the children to witness. No, it wasn’t better in the old days. But children were kept out of the wind. “Not for little ears” was a sentence that I heard a lot, and I hated it. But in retrospect, I am very grateful that my Mom and Dad chose to protect us from the heavy adult emotions that entered our family.
 
So
 
What I want to know from you is this:
 
Do you think it is normal, that young children watch programs with these scenes?
Do you think it does our children any good to watch the news?
 
Actually…
Do you think it does you any good to watch the news?
 
I’d love to hear your comments in the comment box below!
 
 
 

 
The Dutch version of this post can be found at http://charlottekamman.nl/loslaten/
 

 
 
 
Letting go has been one of the hardest things for me to learn.
I am a very relational person, and I have long thought that that was a weakness.
Only recently, I discovered that I am not the only one..
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
A friend sent me this piece of text:
 

If as individuals we can embrace the view that
 
“because of that, this exists,” or, in other words,
“because of that person, I can develop,”
 
then we need never experience pointless conflicts in human relations.
 
In the case of a young married woman, for instance, her present existence is in relation to her husband and mother-in-law, regardless of what sort of people they may be. Someone who realizes this can turn everything, both good and bad, into an impetus for personal growth.

 
 
And this is exactly how I feel it.
 
It means, however, that it can be very hard to let go.
 
For example, if a relationship doesn’t work out the way you dreamed, how do you let go of that?
 
It is good to know what you want to let go of.
Do you want to let go of the person?
 
I feel that that is impossible.
 
I always thought that I was a weakling, that I could not let go of people, but now I understand.
We are connected, and if we have found someone very near, the connection is much stronger, and that connection will not disappear.
The emotional heart connection we have with someone, is not of this time and place. It goes much deeper than that.
 
We can let go of our ideas about what the relationship should look like, though.
And letting go of that creates freedom, not loneliness.
 
A technique I love to use is EFT or meridian tapping.
I often look at the photograph of me and my love, and I tap on the emotions that come up. I find myself nowadays often tapping and just sending love and heart energy, and it makes me feel so much better. I didn’t start of like that, though, I really missed him and I was really sad that our relationship wasn’t working out the way I had hoped for.
 
But now I do see that we have a wonderful relationship, even though we are not “in a relationship” according to the world. I sense our heart connection, and I feel the warmth and the strength that the relationship gives me. I am not sure how it works for him, because even in the closest relationship, you do never know what exactly the other person feels.
 
I do tap for his highest good though, and for his and my happiness, whatever form it will take.
 
Now, I used my romantic relationship as an example, but you can easily see how this works with your children, your parents, anyone whom you hold dear.
 
I’d love to hear from you: What is the hardest to let go of for you?
Please leave me a comment in the commentbox below, that would make me really happy!
 
Talk soon,
 
 

 
 
 

 
 
This post is a follow-up on http://www.charlottekamman.com/your-greatest-fear-will-become-true/
 
 

The little Google notifier beep.
 
“He invited his ex-wife for dinner, I knew it! Again I have a man who doesn’t tell me the truth. How do I create that over and over again? It is my biggest fear and it really makes me mad. I thought a lot about it today, why that is. Why do I time after time let my biggest fear become reality in my relationships?”
 
That was an email of a girlfriend, we have a similar problem, but still a bit different. In short: MEN.
 
This is what I wrote back:
 
“Manifesting your deepest fear is easy.
That’s how the Universe works.
You focus on your fear, very short but very intense.
Then you try to forget about it, and you focus your attention on other stuff. The fact that you put your focus elsewhere, makes that you give the Universe the opportunity to actually manifest that what you had been focusing on so intensely.
 
This way, you can also manifest things that you do want, but it is more complicated, because it is more difficult to distract your focus from it.
 
I try it with M, I want to trust that we will be together if we are meant to be, but I try as often as I can not to think of him. And that is easier if I just trust that it will be all right. Just as I trust that my heart will beat a next time and my lungs will fill up with air again.
 
And that seems to work…”
 
Actually, I do think this is a very short but very to-the-point description. I can add loads of theory and The Secret. But in fact this is all that counts.
 
Simple but not easy.
 
Next time I will tell you how I let go, because that was a real struggle (and sometimes still is).
 
And I would love to hear from you if you have trouble with “letting go”, and how you actually do that. Oh, and while you’re at it, put a comment in the comment box and click on “like” & “Tweet”. Because I like that very much if you do!
 
Thanks a bunch!
 
 

 
 
 

Are you ready for a quantum leap forward, personally and collectively? In this video, bestselling author Marianne Williamson dares us to become part of the 11% of people that can transform the world. From the suffragettes to the civil rights movement, history shows that all it takes is ENOUGH people to truly make a difference. Will you be one of them?

 
 
 
(Source: http://inspirationhub.net/2011/01/are-you-part-of-the-11/

Giving Appreciation

http://inlifeawareness.com/giving-appreciation/

Posted on : 07-02-2011 | By : Cathy | In : Uncategorized
Tags: Appreciation, Communication, Giving, Gratitude
 
The challenge today is that parents are trying to get the best behavior out of their children possible while having to complete with outside influences, like TV, friends, and the internet. Following a few simple techniques will have kids repeating desired behaviors in no time.
First, mirror back your child’s strengths back to them by appreciating them. Say, “I appreciate you for….” The trick here is to be specific. Being general and just saying I appreciate you won’t have the impact you’re looking for.
Next, be sure you do this every day, at least once a day. Make it a habit, a natural, daily part of your communication with your son or daughter.
Finally, be timely. Give appreciations as quickly as possible after you see a desired behavior. Better yet, appreciate while they’re doing what you want them to do.
Using these simple, yet effective techniques will have you creating desired results in no time.